Okay, so this may come off as a little arrogrant. That is not the intention at all–please consider the previous statement my official disclaimer.
Now on to the “controversial” semi-arrogant rant.
I’m sick of apologizing for being a good catch. I can unequivocably say that ALL of my close female friends are attractive, professional, loving, caring, intelligent, single, never been married women who have common sense and aren’t bringing a tremendous amount of baggage into a relationship…yet, we struggle to meet “available, well adjusted men” …I admit, I do have
what are seemingly high standards…I would like a gentleman who I date to have teeth, a job and decent noun/verb usage ability (I’m sorry but if you have to ask me what every word means when we chat on the phone, we are not compatible…period).
Some of the men that I have had candid conversations with regarding this subject give the same tired excuses…”Those type of women are intimidating.” WHATEVER, dude man up, get it together and go for the challenge instead of the easy, you may just be pleasantly surprised…in my experience, men have had a tendency to project their own insecurities and subsequently convince themselves that is how we will perceive the situation. Those same said men will then go in hot pursuit of women with multiple responsibilities that we do not currently possess i.e. those ladies may have several children–not child, divorced or separated, currently dealing with “baby daddy” drama, no job, no aspirations, needy, looking for someone to financially “take care of ” them, etc, etc…whereas the “independent” women I speak of are truly looking for a partnership, not a bailout.
It’s frustrating to have to constantly be put on the back burner because we did everything by the book…we went to school, exercise decent social graces, we didn’t have children before marriage, take pride in our appearance, we appreciate our friends and family…and the list goes on. I don’t think there is a real answer to this. I’m just venting for my friends (I’m resigned to the reality of the situation…it is what it is). So the following video is dedicated to my girls. You all are gorgeous both inside and out…and to my girls with kids and are divorced, don’t take offense, it’s just that sometimes we single, never been married gals in our 30′s sometimes feel like you all get a free pass when we don’t. But rest assured, I do realize that we are still in the same boat:-). Enjoy peeps! As always, respectful comments are welcomed.