Hello lovely people! Guess what? I’m back blogging ( I know, I know, I claim that I’m going to start posting on a regular basis all the time, but I promise, this time is different, lol)…I digress.
Photography: C. Holliday, MUA: Greg Lawrence, Styling: Kyle Murray
Today’s post is dedicated to my awesome organization, The Red Pump Project and our annual “Rock The Red Pump” Campaign. March 10th is National Women and Girls HIV/AIDS Awareness Day, and we at Red Pump always commemorate this day; after all, this is the core of what we do–raise awareness about the impact of HIV/AIDS on women and girls. We promote HIV prevention through education, and open dialogue about the issues that surround sexual and reproductive health.
So last month, the mister and I decided to celebrate Valentine’s Day a bit differently. Instead of making it all about us, we decided to volunteer our resources to travel to DC and do the very first Red Pump DC photo shoot, organized by my lovely partner in crime, Red Pump Coordinator Brittani Menina. I absolutely love the pics he captured of me and the girls…and since I love his work, I wanted to use his pic as my official #RockTheRedPump photo to commemorate the day.
I’m blessed to be involved with a man who supports and gives back, by any means necessary and is always willing to help. This was one of the best date weekends ever! Not only did I get the chance to spend quality time with my hun, but I was able to contribute to a cause I believe in. What more could you ask for!
I’m Rock My Red Pumps Proudly, today and everyday.
Okay, so I don’t really have a confession, but I am excited about a new series of events that my company is producing. We’ve decided to tackle the topic of relationships, which seems to be the ever present elephant in the room. So, if you are in the Charlotte area, please come out and support. AND it’s a fundraiser for a great cause as well. Read all about it below:
A bi-weekly Chat & Chew to discuss relationships in and open, honest, and uncensored environment. Come join us to talk about RELATIONSHIPS in a friendly and mature setting. Similar to a Barbershop or Hair Salon, nothing is off limits!
Tickets are $10 and a portion of the proceeds will be donated to benefit The Red Pump Project-Charlotte to provide HIV/AIDS awareness and education.
Voice your opinion, enjoy light fare, drink specials, network with new people and support a good cause all at once. See you there! Please register and purchase your ticket here.
Feb. 20th Topic
Why Am I Going In Circles? Relationship tips on dating and friendships. How to recognize a great friend or a great lover? Discuss how men and women can identify the differences and build healthy relationships.
Our Special Guest Facilitator: CM Writer (Attorney, Author, Speaker, Columnist, and Relationship Blogger)
So, Kim over at Metro Proponent has done it again. She is bringing us a night of fun philanthropy. Ladies, come out, bid on some single guys while supporting a great cause…If nothing else, enjoy some yummy eye candy–you know we can all use a dose of that:-)
The Best Bachelor Auction Ever 2011: Ladies support the cause & show who’s the BOSS!
Would you like to see your brand logo on the big screens at the Best bachelor Auction Ever 2011? Also, in the gift bags, on the flyers, in the Metro Proponent, and passed out at the event? Sponsorships are needed to provide dates for the bachelors and winning bidders.
WHAT: Charity Bachelor Auction benefitting youth affected by domestic violence and Thomas Davis Defending Dreams Foundation.
WHEN: November 10, 2011 7pm
WHERE: Kalu (505 East 6th Street, Charlotte NC 28202)
WHO: Charlotte’s most eligible and desired bachelors~ and YOU! WITH DJ A ROCK!
WHY: Networking, Philanthropic Efforts, Good Times, and Food! (All winning-bidding ladies will receive an all expensed paid date compliments of our sponsors.)
New Matchmaking and Personal Concierge Service
Makes Life and Love Easier for Charlotte-Area Executives
The Intro MatchMakers Officially Opens for Business in the Queen City June 24
Charlotte, NC—June 10, 2011—The Intro Matchmakers was created with a simple goal in mind—to make the lives of busy professionals easier both personally and professionally. The Intro provides personalized and private matchmaking and concierge services to the city’s most elite executives. The Intro will celebrate its official launch in the Queen City with an intimate, private invite-only reception in Uptown Charlotte the evening of June 24.
The Intro is a personal matchmaking and concierge firm bringing together love and elite lifestyle services to career-focused professionals, executives and professional athletes. The company offers exclusive memberships to only the most accomplished individuals seeking a happy and healthy relationship with someone special. The Intro’s confidential one-on-one approach allows for privacy and discretion in that search for companionship and love. Their clients have high standards, and with the help of The Intro MatchMakers, they are able to connect with high-caliber prospective partners. It’s not about just meeting people; The Intro helps their clientele meet the right people.
The Intro MatchMakers is about convenience, exclusivity and luxury. Whether you are a busy executive looking for love or a reliable concierge service to help maintain your lifestyle, the dedicated and experienced staff of The Intro will be an invaluable resource. In addition to Charlotte, The Intro also services the greater metropolitan areas of Atlanta, Miami and Washington, DC. To learn more about what The Intro offers, please visit www.intromatchmakers.com or call 800-661-1514 to schedule a consultation.
To celebrate the official launch, a handpicked and select group of Charlotte’s elite are invited to a private reception where they will learn about the company and be personally introduced to The Intro co-owners Yolanda Hayes and LaPhaedra Howard. The guest list is invite-only for this event. There will be events open to the general public in the future. For media inquiries or interview requests, contact Jameka Whitten at 704.261.5290 or Jameka@jswmediagroup.com.
If you are in Charlotte, join me on Thursday, Feb. 24th @ 935”s Red Room for the “Best Bachelorette Auction Ever 2011″ presented by http://www.metroproponent.com. Free Food, Drinks and Desserts. Proceeds from this event benefit Youth Affected by Domestic Violence! Check out the promo video…All of the ladies are fabulous; however, I would really appreciate your bids:-)
So…the date was nice, very nice. A love connection? I’d have to say no. However, it was super incredible being pampered and treated like a lady by a man who takes the art of chivalry (and it is most definitely an art) so seriously. Not only was every door opened, but I felt like a delicate flower that he wanted to protect for the evening. An interesting experience for sure. Most of the time the guys I meet love to remind me of how strong and independent I am. And don’t get me wrong—I am, and I enjoy being defined that way; nevertheless that doesn’t mean there isn’t another side of me that enjoys being treated like a “woman.” I enjoy the company of strong men who know when and how to take the lead–without being overbearing, condescending or arrogant. A strong man knows how to treat a strong woman. So yeah, not sure about a second date…like I said no love connection, but I did meet a genuinely nice guy, had a wonderful evening and found out that chivalry wasn’t dead after all. Who knew?
But at the end of the day…I’m SUCH a romantic. Hence the reason why this song hits me hard every time I hear it: Enjoy the video:
I have taken the first step…I’m actually going on a date (yes, miracles do happen). What does this mean for me exactly? It means that I have completely and utterly forgotten the art of small talk. I am so used to being in a business, networking state of mind that I literally forgotten how to conduct that “getting to know you” conversation. On a serious tip, I haven’t had a date or conversation with a guy that was completely new to me in a very long time (no need to say how long). Most of the gentlemen I deal with I have known from various social or business circles prior to us going out.
So in preparation of my “date,” I did what every girl does…I started googling tips and best practices (Yes, I am a nerd). And as a result, I found the most hilarious “how-to” dating video. Please watch and comment. And don’t worry, I will keep you all posted on the date…as if I could keep it to myself, lol.
So I’ve decided that instead of complaining about the dating scene for the professional, educated and dare I say “independent” black woman, I am going to do the unthinkable…I am going to embrace it. First of all, anyone with good common sense knows that that absolute worst thing for any woman to do is to go looking for a man. Trust and believe ladies, God will send your husband. Now, that doesn’t mean you have to wait around and be bored in the process. I’m a firm believer that you can still have fun in the interim of waiting for your soul mate (hopefully you haven’t met him yet and just didn’t recognize him for some reason, but I digress). Of course, the definition of fun varies from person to person (gal to gal in this case). For the record, I am not advocating “fun” as being synonymous with “relations”…no, no, unless you know for sure where the other person has been (and preferably wearing a gold band on the left finger), I would not suggest going out and getting your freak on in the name of pure unadulterated fun-get your minds out of the gutter people…let’s be retro for a moment and think 1950′s fun:-). But what I am saying is there is nothing wrong with “dating like a man.” Men don’t always necessarily think of every woman they go out with on a date as being their future wife. They allow themselves to get to know people without the pressures associated with desperately seeking out that life partner…ladies, it’s not that serious, plus, the desperate look is not in style last time I checked. Just chill out and have fun when you go out with a guy…stop fantasizing about what he is going to look like in his tux on your wedding date or how soon you are going to have kids and buy a house with a white picket fence together.
All in all…let nature take its course. before you know it, Prince Charming will sweep you off your feet when you least expect it. And then the daydreams will cease and the beautiful reality of a happily ever after will set in. Be patient…all in God’s time.
I have a dinner date with an old flame next week, which may prove to be quite the event. Am I wrong to add him to the dating pool? It’s not that I am expecting to rekindle anything, nor do I really want to, but there is something so nice about hanging out with someone who knows you so well. He is really stepping his flirt game up too, with more effort than ever before. if anything, I need a good dinner and even better conversation…so what the heck…I’ll keep ya posted. In other news, I have a pending dinner date with “the muscian.” He has offered to cook me a vegan meal…which I must admit is my weakness–A man that can cook a meal that I can eat, lol…
What can I say? I like being treated like a queen…but I love catering to my man. Trust and believe my next boyfriend will be a very happy man…