Buddy or Just Friends?

14 03 2012

It’s the age-old question, can men and women be “friends?” In order to answer that question, it is important to accurately define friendship between members of the opposite sex. 

Friend: one attached to another by affection or esteem (Webster)

For me, the same things that are attractive to me in a romantic sense are the same things that make me want to spend time with my platonic males friends–minus one important factor: I don’t desire them sexually. That’s not to say that I don’t find my boys attractive ( I roll with some cute dudes) but I’m not interested in them in that way.  There’s also the ambigious “Friends w/Benefits” (also known as “Buddies”) category.  Those are the friends who you are interested in sexually, but you don’t want to pursue anything deeper past friendly activities and sex.  I don’t believe in having Buddies; those are often messy situations.  No matter how clear you are in the beginning about boundaries and intentions, the message always gets twisted, one person catches feelings and the whole thing blows up.  My advice–avoid at all cost. It’s not healthy for you physically, emotionally or spiritually. 

Example A- Buddy

Example B-Just Friends

Okay so back to the friend thing.  Why do you think it’s so hard for men and women to be friends?  Is it because people just don’t understand what true friendship is?  I’m curious to hear your thoughts?  If you are in Charlotte on March 19th, Join us for the Barbershop and Beauty Salon Confessions: Relationship Chat & Chews, this will be one of our topics.


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I have a Confession

30 01 2012

Okay, so I don’t really have a confession, but I am excited about a new series of events that my company is producing.  We’ve decided to tackle the topic of relationships, which seems to be the ever present elephant in the room.  So,  if you are in the Charlotte area, please come out and support.  AND it’s a fundraiser for a great cause as well.  Read all about it below:

 

A bi-weekly Chat & Chew to discuss relationships in and open, honest, and uncensored environment. Come join us to talk about RELATIONSHIPS in a friendly and mature setting. Similar to a Barbershop or Hair Salon, nothing is off limits!

Tickets are $10 and a portion of the proceeds will be donated to benefit The Red Pump Project-Charlotte to provide HIV/AIDS awareness and education. 

Voice your opinion, enjoy light fare, drink specials, network with new people and support a good cause all at once. See you there! Please register and purchase your ticket here.

Feb. 20th Topic

Why Am I Going In Circles? Relationship tips on dating and friendships. How to recognize a great friend or a great lover? Discuss how men and women can identify the differences and build  healthy relationships.

 Our Special Guest Facilitator: CM Writer (Attorney, Author, Speaker, Columnist, and Relationship Blogger)

 


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Time To Rock The Red! Meet Red Pump Charlotte

19 01 2012

The Red Pump Project – Charlotte invites you to join us for an informational meet and greet on Wednesday, February 1, 2012, from 6:30 – 8:30 pm, at HBAR (inside Hyatt House, formerly Hotel Sierra in Uptown Charlotte).   

Red Pump Charlotte is fueled up for a very active 2012, and we need your help in ensuring a successful year!  This will be a casual networking exprience in a social atmosphere. While you’re there, you’ll have the opportunity to:

  • Meet the Red Pump Charlotte Ambassadors
  • Learn how you can get involved with The Red Pump Project
  • Learn more about our 2012 programming and chosen beneficiary
  • Share your ideas on where you would like to see Red Pump Charlotte involved

If you’re interested in getting involved with The Red Pump Project, meet us at HBAR!

As always, Red Pumps and Red Ties are highly encouraged!  Please Register for this free event at http://meetredpumpcharlotte.eventbrite.com


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Awareness is Sexy!

8 11 2011

I certainly have my personal hit list–the qualities and characteristics that I find most alluring about the opposite sex–but as I head into the third year of planning for my World AIDS Day event, I must say, out of everything, I find  awareness mad sexy.  Awareness about education, awareness about social issues awareness about what is going on in the world…not just sports and music (although, per a recent twitter conversation, you need to be into music and sports for me to find you attractive, lol).  However, ultimately, I find a man who is well versed about how to keep himself safe as well as those around him absolutely beautiful.  Men who aren’t afraid of abstinence and are proud to wait for the right one.  Men who aren’t afraid to say, no, we can’t do this without a condom.  Men who will go with you to get that all important HIV test.  Men who understand that awareness, especially when it comes to reproductive and sexual health is always a top priority and not an afterthought.  Men who know how to lead in all aspects of their lives: spiritually, physically and mentally.

We need our men to support us. Join me on December 1st as we celebrate life and bring some awareness and education about HIV/AIDS in our community.  This fight is still on…pretending it doesn’t exist will not make it go away.  I hope to see every man in my life there, rocking a red tie in support:-)

Tickets: http://2011redpumpredtieaffair.eventbrite.com


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Men, Men and More Men: Best Bachelor Auction Ever 2011

3 11 2011

So, Kim over at Metro Proponent has done it again.  She is bringing us a night of fun philanthropy.  Ladies, come out, bid on some single guys while supporting a great cause…If nothing else, enjoy some yummy eye candy–you know we can all use a dose of that:-)

The Best Bachelor Auction Ever 2011: Ladies support the cause & show who’s the BOSS!

Would you like to see your brand logo on the big screens at the Best bachelor Auction Ever 2011? Also, in the gift bags, on the flyers, in the Metro Proponent, and passed out at the event? Sponsorships are needed to provide dates for the bachelors and winning bidders.

WHAT: Charity Bachelor Auction benefitting youth affected by domestic violence and Thomas Davis Defending Dreams Foundation.

WHEN: November 10, 2011 7pm

WHERE: Kalu (505 East 6th Street, Charlotte NC 28202)

WHO: Charlotte’s most eligible and desired bachelors~ and YOU! WITH DJ A ROCK!

WHY: Networking, Philanthropic Efforts, Good Times, and Food! (All winning-bidding ladies will receive an all expensed paid date compliments of our sponsors.)


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Good Clean Fun: Celebrating National Women and Girls HIV/AIDS Awareness Day (NWGHAAD)

10 03 2011

Join Red Pump Charlotte as we celebrate the day this evening at Vertical Tease Fitness:
In commemoration of National Women and Girls HIV/AIDS Awareness Day, join Red Pump Charlotte as we Paint the Night RED. This fundraiser event will take place at Vertical Tease (Tease Fitness Boutique). Come out and learn more about The Red Pump Project and how you can become a Red Pump Rocker.
BUT WAIT…this event isn’t your average informational meeting. The night will be filled with food, laughter, education, fun and a special tease pole party. Vertical Tease will teach basic pole techniques, a sexy chair routine and give you a great workout all at the same time.
Red Pump Project – Charlotte hopes to advance HIV awareness and obtain new Red Pump Rockers to help achieve our 2011 goals. We have the power to change our world; let’s join together and do it. Everyone who attends will have the opportunity to join Vertical Tease at a discounted rate of $45.00 for one month of unlimited classes. JSW Media Group is a media/promotional sponsor of this event.
Event Information
Thursday, March 10, 2011
Doors open 6:30 PM
7:00 – 9:00 PM

 

Vertical Fitness
2125 South End Drive, Suite 251
Charlotte, NC 28203
Enter the double doors and use the call box to dial Suite 251 to be buzzed in!
$20.00 (Proceeds benefit The Red Pump Project)
Rock your Red Pumps and Comfortable Attire

For more information, email Brittani Menina, Red Pump Charlotte Ambassador, The Red Pump Project at redpumpcharlotte@theredpumpproject.com.


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Anything for Charity: Bachelorette Date Auction

22 02 2011

If you are in Charlotte, join me on Thursday, Feb. 24th @ 935”s Red Room for the “Best Bachelorette Auction Ever 2011″ presented by www.metroproponent.com.  Free Food, Drinks and Desserts.  Proceeds from this event benefit Youth Affected by Domestic Violence!  Check out the promo video…All of the ladies are fabulous; however, I would really appreciate your bids:-)


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Supporting Our Men

3 02 2011

I think that some times we get so caught up in the drama of relationships and dealing with “wrong” ones that we forget to support the men in our lives who are actually trying to make a difference, live up to their God-given potential and be the leaders and heads of the household that they are meant to be.  We forget about the men who embrace and value our independence and success–without perceiving it as a negative.  They understand that our independence is only a reflection of us preparing ourselves to be fully equipped as a capable partner, wife and mother to their children…These men  see the worth of having a well-adjusted, strong, mover and shaker in her own right, by his side…As I said before, a strong man isn’t afraid of a strong woman because they know a strong woman will be able to handle any situation, does not invite drama into the relationship  and knows how to relinquish the driver’s seat to her man when appropriate and necessary…

Last night I attended the My 1st Suit Launch Event, and I was impressed by all of the men I met who were on top of their game…all types of men: married, single, engaged,  etc who were there treating all of the women in attendance with respect, showing their support for a community initiative and just being great to each other…It’s refreshing to see and experience.  Renewed my faith in the male species, lol…To learn more about the My 1st Suit initiative, click here.

Music Pick for today…seemed appropriate for today’s discussion:-)

Ne-Yo – Miss Independent


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On The Auction Block…

6 01 2011

It’s for charity, so I’m trying to use my singleness for a good cause.  So, someone come bid on me in Feb please, lol…and if I’m not your cup of tea, there are several other young ladies who are quite attractive and accomplished that you may take a fancy to…Regardless, this should be interesting.


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A Bachelor Auction…Really?

4 11 2010

So, the wonderful and talented Kim Wu has assembled some of Charlotte’s eligible bachelors for an auction—all for charity of course, but if some lucky lady can get a decent date out of the deal, then all the better! 

The Annual “Best Bachelor Auction Ever 2010” (11.18.10)

Join host Ife Moore at 6pm to meet and greet with the bachelors. Bidding starts at 8pm and lasts until all the bachelors are auctioned off.
 
This is a great event for single ladies to come get one of Charlotte’s most eligible Bachelors. Bachelors will start bidding off at $20. Complimentary Gentleman Jack provided by Metro Proponent. Dates will be provided for all bachelors and winning bidders. Date chosen will depend on order of the dollar amount bid.
 
Come have fun with us. Visit www.metroproponent.com click the October 2010 issue to see the introductory questions and check out the November 2010 issue to see the bachelor’s answers to more in depth questions. And any women interested in being a bachelorette for the Best Bachelorette Auction in February, come register or email for more info.


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