Old Flames

26 08 2008

I have a dinner date with an old flame next week, which may prove to be quite the event.  Am I wrong to add him to the dating pool?  It’s not that I am expecting to rekindle anything, nor do I really want to, but there is something so nice about hanging out with someone who knows you so well.  He is really stepping his flirt game up too, with more effort than ever before.  if anything, I need a good dinner and even better conversation…so what the heck…I’ll keep ya posted.  In other news, I have a pending dinner date with “the muscian.”  He has offered to cook me a vegan meal…which I must admit is my weakness–A man that can cook a meal that I can eat, lol…

What can I say?  I like being treated like a queen…but I love catering to my man.  Trust and believe my next boyfriend will be a very happy man…





Back in the Saddle

14 08 2008

I jumped feet first back into the dating game this weekend after a self imposed hiatus.  It felt great to be asked out, picked up and wined and dined…just as it should be for a “Dating Diva.”  It was perfect, great conversation and no expectations.  My date was a perfect gentlemen, despite the fact that he was a musician, see previous post for explanation., lol. 

I am seriously interested in another person right now, but because of the unavailabilty of that situation at the moment, a sista has gotta keep her options open…so I decided to do just that, live, love and enjoy life while keeping everything as chaste as possible…it’s  a struggle, but one that I am looking forward to enduring.  That which does not kill us, makes us stronger, n’est-ce pas?





Play Me A New Song Please…

9 08 2008

Top 5 Reasons Why I Really Hate Dating Musicians

 

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5) Immature
They are so used to living their dream sometimes that the realities of life are a bit much. They are still staying up all night, sleeping all day, and waiting for that perfect gig to just fall in their lap.

4) Groupies
Even if the artist/musician/rapper (fill in the blank) is not attractive by societal standards, just by the mere fact that they are in a band, play an instrument or know how to rap, that makes them mad attractive to those I would classify as professional groupies…they women are relentless. While there is no real reason to be jealous of these women, one should still be careful…musicians and groupies operate in symbiotic relationships; it’s almost parasitic and it is always gross.

3) Instability
They are here today and gone tomorrow. Making plans with a music artists is a shot in the dark, your date will also get displaced by a gig, meeting or otherwise “once in a lifetime” opportunity. AND they will always blame you, saying “you never told me we had plans.” Yeah, okay.

2) Arrogant & Self Absorbed
It’s one thing to be confident, in the entertainment business it is a necessary evil sometimes. However, there is a distinct difference between having total and complete belief in your abilities and being an arrogant A@#. Confidence is attractive, arrogance turns my stomach. It’s not cute, it’s downright annoying. In addition, artists also tend to be completely and utterly self-absorbed (this also extends to visual artists, photographers and promoters). Being self absorbed makes trying to make a relationship with that person a complete disaster. Because of the self involvement they are unaware of your needs …and they are always shocked and surprised when you get upset about something. As if to say, “why in the world would someone be angry with me, I never do anything wrong.” Uh huh…This is the reason why Groupies make the perfect girlfriends for these types…they have low emotional expectations and they have no problem listening to you talk incessantly about yourself for hours on end…yawn.

1) They’re Sexy
So you may be thinking, how is this a con? Well, because they are charismatic and generally very, very sexually appealing, we tend to forget all of the other shortcomings and we get sucked in…It’s a circular, deadly phenomenal. So take heed, next time that sexy musician wants to take you out on a date, remember my words of caution, and find someone else to tickle your fancy.





Stuck Between a Rock & a Hard Place

20 03 2008

My emotions have been all over the board lately…I have two very nice gentlemen who, somehow, have been able to fly under the radar and penetrate my defenses…I am not exactly sure how that happened. After publicly and privately proclaiming my willingness, not to forget eagerness at being single, happy and carefree with my casual dating situation (couple of dinners here, meetings over coffee there), how did I get here? I’m currently at a place where both guys like me very much (I think) and are appreciative to what I could potentially bring to the table in terms of relationship currency. And these two fellas couldn’t be more alike AND different, talk about a sista being confused. Both have the heart of an artist and the mind of an astute business executive, which is an extremely attractive and magnetic quality. But how they are showing their interest in me is in start contrast. Basically, one guy is aggressive and forward in letting me know his feelings. The other, talk about passive aggressive….but he still shows affection in the most simple and sweet ways. The comfort level is amazing. I don’t know. We will see what develops. Both need to step it up though, before neither gets the prize.





Hiatus???

16 03 2008

So I am strongly considering going an all out dating hiatus (or dating freeze, whichever term makes you happy), but I’m not sure. Several of my friends have decided to do it, and they are having great results…But seriously, do I want to give up going and interacting with men just because? HECK NO…I admire my friends who are able to do it , and I even respect the reasons for which they have decided to halt on “dating.” But after taking a long look at myself, I can honestly say…I’m okay. Although there are things that I personally want to work on about myself, I feel comfortable with my state of being at the moment, that allowing a man to get to know me would not be a distraction or a detriment at this point in time. Still…the dating hiatus thing is one to chew one, who knows, maybe I will take the plunge.